The most vociferous opposition to marriage equality for gay men and lesbians comes from those who found their objections in religious conviction. At its most benign, such opposition insists that marriage is, by nature and definition, exclusively between "one man and one woman" (setting aside the historical and biblical inaccuracy of this claim). Less benignly, the opposition deepens, insisting, against all reason and all evidence, that gay and lesbian persons do not exist, and that homosexuality is merely a behavior, distasteful and sinful. This position is belied by the vicious intolerance and hostility that its adherents hold toward those whom they identify as being gay or lesbian -- making plain the dishonesty in the claim that it is somehow only behavior that it is the issue.
But an issue that is generally absent in discussions of same sex marriage and GLBT rights generally is that the world's churches and religions do not speak with a single, unified and disapproving voice. Here, in Philadelphia, with our long Quaker history of tolerance, it is notable that the Society of Friends has long accepted its gay and lesbian members fully and has long blessed gay and lesbian unions. The Canadian and American Episcopal Churches have made news in recent years by building upon their traditions of acceptance and affirming the value and integrity of gay men, lesbians and their families. Other denominations and individual congregations have shown similar acceptance of gay families. Most recently, the United Church of Christ, with 1.3 million members, voted to affirm the church's commitment to equal marriage rights for all couples, regardless of gender (see here and here).
In their statements in support of a proposed federal constitutional amendment prohibiting same-sex marriages (disingeniously couched in terms of merely defining marriage as between "one man and one woman," in order to insist that it is doing something positive, instead of being an amendment seeking to circumscribe the rights of a minority -- gay men and lesbians), the federal marriage amendment is proposed as a conservative measure, preserving the status quo. But the FMA in fact takes a radical form of action which Americans -- gay or straight -- cannot countenance, much less support, since the FMA employs the Constitution to violate the fundamental principle of religious liberty by federalizing one specific minority view of marriage. The FMA further violates all principles of federalism, whereby states retain power to legislate and govern in traditionally local and individual matters, marriage being one such area.
Gay men and lesbians are individuals and citizens, little different (no different in most respects) from their fellow citizens. Gay families are families, like other families. Gay men and lesbians are religious, are spiritual and are secular as individuals, no different from their brothers and sisters and colleagues and friends and neighbors. This is far from being a radical or even a minority statement. On this Independence Day, as we celebrate the beginnings of modern government and the shaking off of the yoke of old burdens, let us remember our commonality, our common humanity, and our common desire to live free and genuine lives. Out of many, we are one -- on this day of all days, let us remember and honor this basic and essential political principle of tolerance and respect.